Monday, October 25, 2010

Digital Getdown

People keep telling me to try online dating.

"Try it! It's a great way to meet people!"

"A ton of people meet their perfect matches on there."

"What is there to lose?"

I think about online dating every so often. In fact, I've thought about it enough that I'm actually on a site or two, but I'm not sure it's for me. I went through a few weeks where I made sure to look at profiles and *wink* and rate people who interested me, but my participation would always end when someone wrote me. I got a really nice message from a guy who thought it was cute I described myself as a fun dork, but I never wrote back. I meant to, but I didn't know what to say and I kept thinking about it getting to the next step and I would either imagine a terrible phone call or a terrible meeting. And it's not like I don't have social skills. I have good social skills! In fact, the other night I realized I am often in the entertainment position in a group of people. I'm pretty good at keeping awkward moments at bay and keeping conversations going. I'm not sure why I can't see myself on a date with one of these guys, but whatever it is, it's keeping me from really doing this whole online dating thing.

What's the new percentage of couples who meet online? 75% Seems high to me. I think it would be different if I was sitting around my apartment and wondering why I wasn't meeting anyone. You know, if I worked 80 hours a week and didn't interact with anyone new all week. But that's not me...I am out all the freaking time. In fact, when I think about having to set up dates with people I meet online, I think, "But then I won't be able to hang out with my friends so much!" Who is to say the perfect guy isn't out at the same bar I frequent with my girls? Maybe he's not online. I have absolutely nothing against this whole online dating thing, but I think I'm going to go about finding love my own way for now.



A Girl In The World said...

Online dating is not for everyone, that is for sure. Some people (like me) absolutely love it. Did I meet the love of my life there? Nope! BUT, I had a lot of fun, met some cool people and honestly avoided a lot of bad dates because I was able to dialogue with people for awhile before committing to meet them. If they couldn't keep up with my wit in writing - they wouldn't stand a chance in person.

Keep that in mind if you decide to attempt the online dating again. :)

NotCarrie said...

I will...that is definitely a pro to it.

Lindsey said...

I'm with you...I was never into the online dating thing either. There's just something about the experience of actually being out there in the dating scene.