Sunday, October 12, 2008

Thanks, But No Thanks

This guy keeps hitting on me at work and while it's flattering, I really just want him to stop. The problem is, though, that I think he thinks I may be interested. See, I never recognize him when he comes in so I say hello like I do to everyone and I think he mistakes my smile and happiness for being excited to see him. Yesterday when he came by someone else went to say hello to him and he said hi, then came straight to where I was and said to the other guy, "I came to see her." (OMG) Of course, I was caught by surprise and in the miliseconds that this all happened, I was saying hello and smiling like I do to everyone (So you can see how he would mistake this interaction for me being happy to see him).


The last time he came in, I honestly thought that maybe I had misunderstood him when he said he wanted to buy me coffee. This time there was nothing ambigious about what he said. He wants to " come back and see" me and "take [me] out for coffee". I don't know what to do when he says these things, though, because I am not in an environment where I can be mean or in a place like a bar where I can just leave. NotSnape, a coworker, made it even worse later when he told me that my inadvertant blushing* probably sealed the deal for the guy. Crap!

So I don't know what to do. My only plan so far is to have either NotSnape or NotGraceful** come be protective and boyfriend-like when this admirer is there. I can't just say, "I'm not interested" because then he has the opportunity to take it all back and said, "That's not what I meant!" and how mortifying would that be!? I'm also hoping that I now recognize him sooner so I can not smile when I say hi.

Like I told NotBecky, it's tough being so gorgeous and charming.


*It was really warm in there. I was so hot.
**Did I change his name? I thought I had. Hmmm


Estrella Bella said...

My suggestion is to get a fake wedding ring and wear it, it might be a subtle way to get the guy to back off.

Anna said...

If he asks about coffee or something again, you can always tell him you're flattered but taken.

NotCarrie said...

Well, I do wear a heart ring on my left hang. That should work, come on!

bernthis said...

Tell him you're just not ready to date right now. You're trying to focus on your career and getting him the hell out of your life LOL

Seriously, be aware that men are oblivious to women that don't like them. It takes A LOT of "no's" but eventually he will disappear.

Isabella Snow said...

Tell him you like girls!

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