Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Chemistry without Sparks? I'm sure there's some scientific dating term for this...

So, OkCupid has netted me one date thus far, since I last posted about signing up online (again) and trying to re-enter the dating world.

And for that one date it was, in a word okay, which as we all know is the death knell of any male I'm seeing.

There were no sparks, but chemistry, of a sort was present, I think I'll dub it Kindredstry since it felt like we had known each other long enough to get along, but not long enough to feel that flicker of attraction. NotChrisRock (because I swear that's who he looks like and jokes like for that matter), was funny, open and great to talk to. Which, are all pluses in his favor.

And then there are the minuses...He's touchy feely (I think hand holding and PDAs should be built up to since we've only just met in person), he doesn't have a car (but in his defense I found out he's only lived in the DC Metro area for the last three months), and has facial hair (superficial of me, yes, but I like a clean shaven man).

However, he hasn't done anything that's a deal breaker and he keeps things interesting. So that warrants a 2nd date. Or according to him, dinner at his place.

9 comments:

NotMiranda said...

Maybe I'm weird, but I actually expect to feel that flicker of attraction fairly immediately.

NotCarrie said...

I'd probably be more guarded on a first date with someone I don't know, though. If I was physically attracted I would probably give more time for the other. I think.

restaurantrefugee said...

Let me start by saying that I just found your place whilst engaging in random blog surfin; and I am glad I stopped.

I think you know when you know. 90% of the time chemistry will announce itself almost immeadiately. Then other times it will develop slowly if given the chance.

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Roxy said...

dinner at his place? Are you sure that's a good idea?

When a bed is within 100 feet, the plan is to use it (from my experience).

NotSamantha said...

Thanks for the advice. Right now the plan of action is to wait it out. I left the ball in his court and I'd like to report that it took him exactly 48 hours to call me back. I've already got plans for the next two weekends, but he was all about me breaking them (according to him he was just kidding, though I think not). Anyway, I think I'm going to nix the dinner at his place (good sage advice from both NotMiranda and Roxy) and go for something more mundane, like old bookstore hunting. I'll keep you guys updated.

Bow Chica Wah Wah said...

Dinner at his house for the second date....not sure if that's the greatest idea.

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Jen Kucsak said...

It takes a while to develop chemistry with someone. But if there is something between you two, you should feel something immediately. And dinner at his house for the second date... ooh la la!