Thursday, August 07, 2008

Static cling...a friend to no one

It looks like I might have to change NotMoxy's name to TooClingy. As Friday rolled around and I tried to psych myself up for my date, something kept telling me abandon ship. I'm just not a casual dater. In my world, I want to be your friend and discover one day we're madly in love. Right.

Since I do live in reality, I forced myself (with the strong encouragement of my girls) to go on this date. Since he was running late, I stationed myself at a booth near the bar and had a drink to calm my nerves. That, combined with flirting with the bar manager, seemed to help. NotMoxy eventually arrived and we had a pleasant enough evening just chatting away. He's a nice guy, and we share a lot of similar interests. The problem is that there was just no there there.

You know that feeling when you look across the table at someone and feel absolutely nothing? No chemistry. I knew the end was near when I found myself chanting silently, "please don't try to kiss me; please don't try to kiss me," as he walked me to the metro.

Turns out the lack of chemistry must have just been on my part. The next morning I awoke to an early morning email telling me what a nice time he had and saying he hoped I would consider him my boyfriend one day. Later that afternoon, I got a voicemail from him asking how my weekend was going. This past Sunday I blew out of town for a work project that had me out of cell and internet range. When I finally returned to civilization last night, I had yet another voicemail from him telling me how he "missed me already" and wished "he had met me sooner."

Now, I have not spoken to him since our date on Friday, but clearly this is something I need to nip in the bud. I wonder if they make that static cling spray for relationships.

10 comments:

Roxy said...

yikes... i've had this happen to me several times. Hurry up and send the email that says "I appreciate your messages, but I'm sorry. I didn't feel a connection." That has nipped things in the bud for me everytime. If he replies (angry,sad, questioning), IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE.

NotCarrie said...

Are you sure you didn't accidentally touch his wang or something and give him the wrong idea?

TexasLauren77 said...

Hi! I found your blog via the BlogHer network, and am delurking to comment. :) I have to agree with Roxy...a polite email saying thanks, but I don't feel a connection seems like the way to go...and the sooner the better! If this guy is this clingy NOW, I'm afraid to think of what he would be like LATER!

SaneAndSingle said...

How disappointing!

NotSamantha said...

Oooh, ick. See, its like I've always said, stay out of MD. I like the state well enough, but I run as fast as I can in and out of it.

Pekky said...

I agree with Roxy. You should do the polite e-mail.

That guy sounds definitely clingy. If I were you, I would have felt claustrophobic already.

jo said...

well i guess the mature thing to do would be to send an email clearly stating your non-interest. but i'm a wuss (or a total bitch maybe?) so i would probably just be friendly... but not too friendly and try and ease off... 'coz really i would rather die than have any kind of "talk".

NotMiranda said...

Done. A kind email was what I had in mind all along anyway.

Nav said...

//Are you sure you didn't accidentally touch his wang or something and give him the wrong idea?//

Laughing my ass off at this.

Jen Kucsak said...

Good going. A nice email is the way to go. Although if that situation were reverse, the guy probably wouldn't even have the decency to say anything or give an explanation. But that's a whole other topic. Don't even get me started :)