There have been some good suggestions given to NotCharlotte on how to let NotElvis know she is interested. Thinking back to my own ways I realized they ran the gamut from emailing to using the kissing approach. My "old" age has me wary of the process of slowly letting him know I like him and using the touching-his-arm technique. Right before my last birthday I got in the "F*&% this, I'm almost ** years old! I can't keep playing these games!" mindset. It just felt dumb for me to wait around for someone to realize I was interested. Now, don't let me kid you, I'm still way too shy to come right out and tell a guy I like him or to even ask him out but at least my realization has me moving in the right direction.
It sucks there can't be a way to let a person know without the potential for embarassment or awkwardness. So my bored mind gets the idea of an auction and the paddles they use (or at least, they use in the movies since I've never been to a real auction to witness this) to show interest in an item and to bid on it. NotMiranda has mentioned before how she wishes we had that texting capability they used to advertise where you could write to someone in close proximity.
Imagine if we had something easy like that. Just something subtle to show interest. Maybe in the future we'll have pheromones we can turn on and off depending on who is around. "Oh, NotEwanMacGregor is around? PHEROMONES UP!" and he won't be able to resist.
Until then though, PLEASE keep those ideas coming, I'm sure we could all use the advice/ideas.
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I completely agree...at this point it can be too time consuming to try to drop hints...but there are times when it's a game and it's fun. You feel like a high school kid again. Too bad my metabolism isn't what it was in high school.
How abt if we all had a small little traffic light on our foreheads that went green everytime we see our love interest-to signal "come right on"? and red to mean "don't even think abt it". I wonder what yellow would say..
i think as i get older, i get less motivated to tell someone i like 'em. i just wait and see and try not to obsess bout stuff like that. maybe i need to be even older before i start panicking for real haha!
Linny: dropping hints is EXHAUSTING. Especially when men just don't get it.
Anonymous: I think yellow would say "I may think you're cute, but i'm not sure if i'm interested yet..."
Jo, I agree with you but then I start singing the Veruca Salt song "I want it now" from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory...
I can't help but obsess...
I remember back to elementary school, where we all used to send notes with "Do you want to go steady?" and a box for YES and one for NO. Not that any of us actually knew what 'going steadyä meant (and no, I wasn't in elementary school during the 50's!).
So, you'd tick either 'yes' or 'no' and then go around, saying 'he's my boyfriend' for a week or so before you got bored and went on...
The note system... should be valid after junior-high as well! :D
I think if you maintain eye contact with the subject longer than oh, 8 seconds straight, that should be the 'clue'. Then they would say "oh you want to go out, ok" hehehehehe... so then we'd all go around NOT maintaining eye contact with MOST people when we talk to them. Oh wait, most of us do that NOW. Alright I'll think of something else.
When I was in elementary school I thought that whole "going out" thing was stupid bc noone ever "went out". I refused to participate.
Yellow could mean friends?
It is sooo hard.
Usually I'll try to incorporate them in more and more things like 'a bunch of us are going to xyz, wanna come?' and maybe after doing that a few times 'a bunch of us' will magically turn into 'oops, they all canceled last minute'
but wouldn't you think if we had an external signal, that could get embarrassing also?
I use the direct approach. If the answer is no, I refuse to let myself be embarassed.
I worked at Armand's in Tenley for four months because I followed a girl into the bar because she was checking me out. I needed an excuse to be in there and filled out an application. Too bad her boyfriend was sitting right next to her when I asked her.
That was about as embarassing as it could get, but I shrugged it off and laughed along with everyone else.
If you can't laugh at yourself, you're the only one.
Like those dishwasher magnets that say "clean" on one side and "not clean" on the other - you could wear a pin "hey sexy" or "leave me alone"!
~Maggie
NC - I felt the same way! But not just in elementary school... when people said they were 'dating' or 'going out' I was always like.. WHERE are you going? and whose paying for it anyway? I liked the term 'crushin'.
4th graders.. dating. LOLOLOL.
Like the time my bro's friend said, "Will you go with me?" and I really did say, "Where?"
Ugh!
Ok guys, I've figured it out.
Thanks to a (not so) lovely car accident, I will be without a car this Friday evening.
I will kindly ask NotElvis for a ride home from work... and if all goes well something good will happen!
Sucks about the car but at least some good may come of it!
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