Tuesday, June 13, 2006

The Non-Date

I, too, went to the movies this weekend and had a wonderful time. I had what was arguably the best time I have had in awhile but maybe that isn't saying much since the past few weekends have been filled with obligations and not as much going out. (Not to take away from the good time.)

From the outside looking in, I was on a hot date that was going really well. To me, and anyone who knows me, I was hanging out with my good (male) friend and having a splendid time in a very platonic way. And while I know it was just a non-date, I thought after the fact about how that is how I would want any real dates to go: casual, easy, fun, full of laughter and inside jokes, decisions made (relatively) easily, shared soda and candy at the theatre...an all-around enjoyable time.

I even talked to Mr. Non-Date later in the weekend about what kind of relationship I would want with a potential boyfriend. I don't know if it's a reflection of me growing past my college days or just a result of being busy (and therefore tired) with everything but I said how I want a good mixture of Me Time, Group Time (of varying numbers), and BF Time.

Me Time is pretty obvious. It's time where I do what I want, when I want, and where I want. (It would most likely be me laying on a couch and watching One Tree Hill or something on DVD;)

Group Time would be anything from going out to dinner with the chicas to a night of bars in the city and may or may not include the BF. I don't want one of those relationships where the couple drops off the face of the earth because they can't see past their partner. And I've been the third wheel so I never want to create one.

BF Time is obvious, too. Me and him. (REOW!) But the thing about BF Time is that I don't expect or want big productions of fireworks. I would be so content just hanging out and watching a movie or something. Sometimes, I just want to be around someone.

So my perfect non-date didn't spark much new thought as Me/Group/BF Time isn't exactly going to win me "Radical Thought Of The Year" but, it did remind me of how great and balanced things can be. My non-date is exactly how things should be but with any future boyfriends (and not the platonic friends) I do wish for some hardcore making out.

9 comments:

Sandra Dee said...

I'm totally with you on the equal amounts of me/group/bf time. I have to have some recharging of my batteries, and looove me some alone time.

Style Girl said...

i love me time and group time. i live in BF time everyday, so every chance i get to be by myself or with my girlfriends i jump on it!

CoatMan said...

Now, you just want to cross-breed your friend with someone cute...

Lindsey said...

Sometimes I think you and I are seperated at birth. I feel EXACTLY the same way. Down to every last sentence...even spending Metime laying on the couch watching a DVD or favorite show.

NotCarrie said...

Sandra dee- Alone time rules, it really does. (Right now though, I'm at my fill though, haha)

Style girl- Yeah I definitely don't want to lose any of my times;)

Coatman- Hmmm, I did take a ton of Genetics in college...

Linny- My long lost twin!? We finally meet!

Jordan said...

I so love Me-time.... as a matter of fact.. I've spent a lot of ME time and strictly only ME time for over 6 months (with the exception of family)... took a 'break' from the male species. I'm back though.. so far so good.

Sweet said...

Yeah, I go on non-dates all the time! I'm starting to think my overwhelming number of guy friends as opposed to girls, might not be the best thing. It's like a safety net.

Amanda said...

interesting. my experience has always been that male friends are just boyfriend-wanna-bes in disguise.

i am totally with you on that whole balance thing. and on the making out.

Chuckles said...

I went on a non-date last Friday. It was a lot more fun than I was hoping, because I need more friends that live in the Non-Represented City. Plus, the movie, Air Guitar Nation was the newly crowned Dopest Movie Ever.

Knocked Riki-Oh out of first place for the first time in 4 years.