Monday, February 20, 2006

Perceptions

I can't help but wonder how I am perceived. Do people think I'm a slut? a tease? a prude? normal? shy? embarassed? confident? unsure? etc...


I think I definitely used to be perceived as a tease. I used to be an even bigger flirt than I am now but with pretty much no follow through. I think I just wanted to get to the point of someone wanting me and then I'd backtrack in my flirting. (And no, it wasn't to THAT point or anything. I'm not cruel.)

Now I'm not so sure. I'm in one of those moods where I really want to read some people's minds and see what they're thinking about me.

14 comments:

Donna said...

I often wonder how I'm perceived, too - not necessarily in sexual terms like you've illustrated, but by people in general.

Often, your relationship status and what you want from guys will be the sole judgement factor of how men - and some other women - see you, in those respects.

I wonder if the other girls in the office think I'm a bit eccentric... I panic that something I've said might have been taken the wrong way, and such like.

But yeah, I catch your drift.

NotCarrie said...

Yeah like how people sometimes think I'm snobby because I'll be shy/quiet.

Larissa said...

apparently i come off as a vegetarian -- a coworker told me that once. maybe it's the glasses i sometimes wear. ;-) but to answer your question, even though I've never met you in person (so it's a little hard to really judge), i'd say you're a flirt but not a tease.

Laurie (aka buggy) said...

I think everyone would like to know how strangers see them. Or even friends. I mean most of the time you know what your friends think of you (if they're true friends) - but to really get deep down on what they think of you as a person.
That'd be cool.

NotCarrie said...

You're right, Larissa, I am definitely a flirt but no longer would think people see me as a tease.

Laurie/Buggy;): I have a couple of friends I'd like to read the minds of. Just on a few subjects.

jo said...

i was just wondering the exact same thing on my way to work today. actually i was trying to define myself while i was at it. i find that i get people thinking that i'm a goodie two shoes or i'm a real wild child. i think i'm somewhere in between. and then i wondered if i'm a flirt. i do flirt sometimes but it doesn't neccesarily mean a whole lot.

NotCarrie said...

Is flirting and being charming the same thing?

sWaTkiNd said...

I always thought the best way to figure out how you might be perceived by others is to watch home movies of yourself interacting with other people and having conversations.

NotCharlotte said...

Flirting and being charming are definitely not the same thing...

you can be charming to anyone, to "make" them like you. You can only flirt with guys you like...

Hard to explain.

jo said...

ahh so does this mean i've really just been charming instead of flirty 'coz i don't necessary like everyone i 'flirt' with? haha!

NotCarrie said...

Hahahha, good point, Jo.

Gayla said...

I would think this is more a question to ask the guys in your life. Women are the worst at summing up another woman.

Two things that bother me most is -

1. The possibility of having a woman suffering PMS cut my hair

and

2. Being perceived as a snob because in the "real world" I am painfully shy.

And both involve women!

I have to admit, I'm guilty of passing judgements before getting to know someone.

NotCarrie said...

Me, too, Gayla. I am sometimes thought of as snobby as a result of shyness/quietness but I pass that same judgement for others. I think I've gotten better at reminding myself not to assume things.
But you're right, it's guy's opinions I"m curious about right now!

Laurie (aka buggy) said...

Swatkind's idea:

If I watched video to look at myself and see how others see me, I'd be perceived as a drunk.

But in my defense people have video cameras at such events as parties and get togethers and sports and stuff - where drinking is usually occurring all around. So really I'm not a lush.