Monday, June 23, 2008

Let's not and say we did?

Shortly after NotHarry and I stopped talking to each other, I started dating one of his friends, NotGreeny. He was younger than me (21 to my 24), an art student/graphic designer, and came from a rich family.
Who was I to argue when he asked me out?
Ignoring my friends' newfound nickname of "Cougar," I went to a diner with him, where we proceeded to have a pretty good time, laughing about mutual movie interests and music. He told me I was saved in his phone as the character I dressed as for Halloween and I thought it was endearing. He gave good hugs, opened doors for me, even let me order my food first. In all, it wasn't a bad date.
We made plans for a second meeting, this time he came over to my house, since I was having one of my traditional Wine & Board Game Nights. He arrived earlier than the other guests and we sat on my couch watching Freaks & Geeks and behaving like high schoolers. He did the whole "scoot an inch closer every time I coughed" move, then slowly grabbed for my hand. It felt cute and innocent. Then he finally went in for the kill.
He attacked my face like a seal does fish. He pretty much wrapped his entire mouth around mine, bordering on sealing my nostrils in his gaping maw, darting his tongue in and out of my mouth with the voracity of an out of sync metronome. After about 30 seconds of this, I backed away, telling him to slow it down a little. We went back to watching tv, me finding little ways to wipe the spittle off my face and him grinning at me like he thought I wanted it.
Soon after that, my friends arrived and I was relieved. We sat in my living room, playing our favorite games and having a good time. NotGreeny stands up and declares he is going to the convenience store for cigarettes and he would be back soon. We all sort of shrug and continue our intense round of Apples to Apples, not thinking much of it.
About 20 minutes later, he comes back in and sits down. A familiar, yet uninviting smell trails in with him and my close girl friend NotTypeA looks at me and mouths "Pot?"
Indeed, she was right. NotGreeny had decided to take it upon himself to sit in his car, in the middle of my stuck up, middle class neighborhood, and smoke up.
From this point on, my friends were pretty rude to him and I couldn't make eye contact with him. About an hour later, after much chiding from my buds that he couldn't even participate in the game because he was so stoned, he decided to leave. I walked him to the door and he apologized, saying my friends made him feel really uncomfortable. I told him they had every right to feel uncomfortable, he violated my trust and my values. He knew about my no tolerance policy when we were just friends, yet he was so concerned about his "well being" that he didn't think it would matter.
I went back to my party and we continued our game. I got a text from NotGreeny a little bit later saying "I'll quit smoking for you, that's how much you mean to me."
I guess I was feeling nice, so I gave him a second chance. In hindsight, maybe that wasn't such a good idea...

*to be continued*

9 comments:

SaneAndSingle said...

Wow...you are kind to NotGreeny...second chance? Hmmm...

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Roxy said...

he's not gonna quit... just think of better ways to hide it.

I don't think it's a good idea to date an ex's friend... especially not a good idea to give said friend another chance.

You're better than that.

Dawn said...

i've heard the "i'll quit when.." excuse before. never really happens. can't wait to hear the rest of the story!

NotCharlotte said...

Just you wait ladies... it gets SO much better!

Dawn said...

i need the rest of the story!! :)

Smartgirlsingle said...

Unbelievable...
At the end of the day, the only thing you can control is yourself though. Take this quiz on www.mydatingpatterns.com. Its by a top love psychologist and uses the women from Sex and the City's psyches as examples of the things we all do in the dating world!

dizzy observer said...

i don't blame you. i have a thing for seal like men too.

Francis said...

Hi, there are people who understand that love cannot be forced and cannot be easily wished away. dating a friend of your proves just that.

Anonymous said...

I told him they had every right to feel uncomfortable, he violated my trust and my values. He knew about my no tolerance policy when we were just friends, yet he was so concerned about his "well being" that he didn't think it would matter.

You are a condescending douchebag. It's college! God forbid someone break out of their comfort zone.
I guarantee you and your friends are the only ones that think you are funny.
That's a compliment to some people. Definitely not you. You guys suck. Get off your pedestal.