Thursday, September 27, 2007

Flirting

As I was sitting in the world's worst traffic yesterday (seriously, traffic at 730pm? Why.) I had the following thought:

If I am going to have a boyfriend*, does that mean I have to stop flirting?


And honestly, I was a little distraught about the thought. Flirting is almost second nature to me. It's fun. I enjoy it. I do it...a lot. I don't think I could ever just not do it. The thing is, though, that I don't follow up my flirting with propositions or anything so I think I should be okay continuing the habit. Maybe to a lesser degree, of course. I don't want to be thatgirl.

And yeah, I know the whole, "if you're happy with your guy/girl then you won't be looking elsewhere," but that's not the problem. Like I said, it's not like I am out there propositioning people, I just like to be charming. I almost can't help it;)




*Do NOT jump the gun, please. I said "IF".

10 comments:

Milwaukee Girl said...

Flirting is in my nature, as it is in my boyfriends. When we go out we both end up flirting with each other and with others. I wouldn't worry too much, at the end of the night as long as you don't go home with someone and don't take their number, then it's just fun ...

notawaitress said...

I have a male aquaintance who is the biggest flirt I have ever met in my life, and he has a very serious gf. He's never cheated on her, ever, never even kissed someone else, but he needs everyone with two X chromosomes to want him.

Right or wrong? I know I've flirted even when I'm with someone. As a friend of mine says, it doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you come home for dinner!

recovering overachiever said...

You can't give up flirting! What a distressing thought!
I have a serious (live-in) boyfriend and I still flirt. Granted, not heavy flirting and I tend to spread it around to more people then when I was single, but I definitely still flirt. I think you can definitely flirt, but only in an amount that you would feel comfortable with if your boyfriend was doing the same.

jo said...

recently i was just telling my best friend that i think i'm getting too used being single. where i can flirt with whoever i want without feeling guilty. not that i think i'm getting a boyfriend anytime soon but gosh sometimes it's gonna be hard to have to reel myself back and not flirt too much...

Isabella Snow said...

In my experience.. if you really dig someone, you don't even think about flirting..

Caitlyn said...

I'm sort of the same way, I have such a naturally flirty nature. I've also been in many relationships. With one exception, the guys I've been dating know it's flirting and just that- they know that I don't have a hidden agenda.
I'd say that you can continue to flirt, but just be sure of the nature of it. Make it cute flirting, not slutty flirting. And besides, he'll be seeing how much other guys are into you, maybe it'll make him want you more. A little competition never hurt anyone.

Marissa said...

okay, flirting is my second language (or maybe my first?!). i have a boyfriend and i flirt with everyone...and everything (trees, my apartment walls...). i can't help it! the key is finding a guy who is confident in himself and you're love for him.

NotCarrie said...

Milwaukee Girl- Exactly. I agree. and really, flirting with others can just be innocent flirting for practice, haha.

notawaitress- haha, I love the little sayings.

Recovering overachiever- Yeah, as long as it's not all, "hey baby, let's meet out back in 5!" haha

Jo- Yeah, everyone knows I flirt. I can't help it.

Isabella Snow- I can definitely see that if they're there, but it's fun to be charming, too.

Caitlyn- I agree about the hidden agenda

Marissa- HAHA, flirting with the trees. Awesome.

eric1313 said...

Everybody flirts, it's a lot of people's language.

That's what I don't get about hyper-jealous people; they seem to think nobody should ever flirt unless you are going to have sex or already had sex at some other date and time with the person. That probably means you never want to innocently flirt with that person.

Then there's half flirting, like being on the phone with a paying a bill and you tell somebody they have a beautiful voice. Everybody's little worlds turn on these words uttered in the highest of shallow, splashing hopes.

NotCarrie said...

Eric1313- I agree. There are different levels of flirting: friendly, charismatic, sexual, suggestive, etc.