Sunday, July 08, 2007

Feeling like the third, fifth and seventh wheel..

Saturday night I went out to help NotBeauty celebrate her 21st birthday.

Yep, that's right, your eyes did not deceive you. I helped someone celebrate their 21st birthday. Since its been seven years since my own, this was quite nostalgic for me. I dressed to semi-impress and with keys, cash and attitude in hand I headed out for NotBilliards.

And was completely thrown for a loop at the couplehood that was there.

NotASong and NotABarber
NotBeauty and NotBruceLee
NotANympho and NotMoney

and so on and so on and so on.

In short. I was the odd woman out, without a date that is. And before I let myself descend into my own one woman pity party, I considered the options.

I could:
1) Make my excuses and go home early.
2) Hit on someone's date (such a bad bday party faux pas)
3) Hit on some of the innocent bystanders
4) Drink enough to numb myself to the fact that I was at another party without my 'part' leaving me with 'y'.
5) Make the best of the situation by reveling with friends and the vowing to find someone to go to the next shindig where large groups would be in attendance.

My choice was a combo of 4 and 5. I got a pleasant buzz on and thought about what I would need to do to remedy my current dateless situation. Which is quite interesting as I don't like to go out much to any of the places where I could do a meet and greet with members of the opposite sex. I've decided to take a new method for jumping back into the dating pool. I'm going to hit up my already paired off friends for possible dating material amongst their single male friends.

*crosses fingers and prays she doesn't regret this later*


NotCarrie said...

I usually don't mind being around couples as long as they don't go off into Couplesville where they have blinders on and don't realize others are around. I love couples who can still be normal:)

eric313 said...

I'm a guy, and I hate that too. I just feel uncomfortable when togues are going at it so much that breathing starts becoming an issue. Your list of excuses is awesome. I like three, hit on strangers, only it won't work, because they know you're desperate--at least they would know a third wheel guy is desperate.

Nice meeting you. I hopped in from Marissa's blog.

NotSamantha said...

NotCar - for the most part the couples were normal, except NotBeauty and NotBruceLee got some heavy kissing, but it was her birthday, so I don't blame her. But NotASong and NotABarber were great and kept me in the loop.

Eric - Welcome to the blog. As for desperation, I hope I don't have that deer in the headlights, oh my god save me from the land of being one look when I chat up strangers amongst my coupled friends...the key is to make it look like you're so put upon, by being the only single person in the group of couples and you need other single people so that you can escape.

Anonymous said...

I noticed at a wedding I went to a couple of weeks ago that A) The guys people try to fix me up with (and some of these people don't even know each other) tend to be of a certain type and B) Sadly, it isn't _my_ type. I still believe in fix-ups, sort of, b/c that's how my parents met, but I personally prefer online dating. It's a good thing to try when you don't get out enough to places where you'd meet people. I met the first guy I was really serious about on match, and the guy I'm fairly serious about at the moment, too. It's not perfect, but it's worth a try, IMHO.

startingtoday said...

I don't like that.. I don't like feeling like the 3rd wheel. In your situation, I would have liked to have left the party! Since I wouldn't want to offend my friend, I might instead have drunk a little bit too much to feel better about it.

DCWeddingPhotog said...

now you sound like me!

twg said...

Not to hock my own goods here, but it was for a similar reason that I ended up making myself this shirt on cafepress last year. I was constantly around one of two couples -- or both of them at the same time. And I was single. And my only single friends were out of town. One couple was fun to hang with and the other was not, but it didn't matter at the end of the day -- I would get tired of it either way. When you're single and constantly being reminded of how that state devalues you as a person by every outlet in the media and otherwise, hanging around all couples all the time can be downright horrible.

But once in awhile, yeah, it's not a problem. Unless, as once happened in college, we all sat down to watch a movie and one girl remarked, "Aw, you have no one to snuggle with!" I decided to retreat to my room with a book after that.