I almost fell off my chair this morning. NotTutorBoy sent me an email. A long email, in fact, laying out why he cut off contact. My eyes teared up not from sadness but from the sweet relief of knowing just what happened. I hadn't realized until that moment just how much I had been carrying this around. Despite my confidence that everything had been amazing, I realized I had begun to doubt myself. Sweet relief:
"Hey NotMiranda,
Sorry it took me so long to get back to you. So here's the deal: I've been on and off with this girl for the last year and a half (long distance relationship). When I met/pursued you, we had been broken up for a few weeks. She moved back recently and I took her out to eat so we could talk about things. Long story short, we decided to give it another try. In transit, from the restaurant she found a number of your hairs in my car. Needless to say, she wasn't thrilled. I explained what happened between us and she pretty much asked that I not have contact with you anymore (understandable from her point of view). So this is the reasonfor my disappearing act.
I apologize for not being up front and just letting you know when it happened. I hope you don't hate me, it was not my intention to play games with you or disrespect you in any way. I guess all I can really say is that I apologize, and I hope that you accept.
NotTutorBoy"
16 comments:
I hate to be a debbie downer, but that email sounds fishy...
Fishy or not, he apologized. That takes guts. Now you can put this affair to rest and move on.
Hey - he bit the bullet and told you the truth. No sense crying over it girlfriend, just pick up and move on.
You've got bigger fish to fry.
So essentially she said to him, "Ditch your newfound possibility so that you can be in an already proven unstable relationship with me." and he complied?
No. Balls.
I agree with Pele. Whatever happened to dating around?
Give him credit. He was telling the truth. That's pretty rare. Andhe respected you which si why he fessed up to begin with. File him under "potential boyfriends."
Oh, he definitely got credit...I emailed him back, accepting his apology. I've moved on, but he was fun while he lasted.
I'm with sex & moxie... I want to believe he was sincere. And even if he wasn't, it was a nice enough way to let you go so when you do run into eachother again, things won't be brutally uncomfortable.
Yeah, at least he sent something. It's always nice to have closure.
I'm intrigued.
Part of me applauds him for giving an explanation. Part of me wonders why he decided now, after this time passed, to send it now.
Proving once again that boys are just downright odd. I'm continually baffled.
Better for you to know who you're dealing with. He is obviously hung up on this girl, so count your blessings and find a guy whose "ex-girlfriend" doesn't freak out because he was moving on with his life by asking you out on a date.
I agree with Pele, you don't want to get stuck in the middle of their drama. They won't work out anyway. On and off relationships wind up in the shithouse.
That actually sounded quite mature and sincere. At least he's an adult. Speaking from a man's point of view, sincerity is hard to find out there. I invite you to come read about some of my dating experiences:
http://diaryofadisillusioneddater.blogspot.com
@lost -
No matter how many books I read or men I've dated, I'll never understand them. I guess that's why I love them so. :-)
I like that he apologized - good boy!
Well, at least you know. I guess. Doesn't make him a NonDouchbag, though:)
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