Sunday, February 25, 2007

Set Ups

Do friends ever set their other friends up on dates anymore? The other day, after the subject of the under-used practice came up, I tried to think about which guys and girls I would consider setting up together. I came up with nothing. No good pairings. Nothing. Nada!

The thing is, though...I know a lot of really awesome guys and I know a lot of really awesome girls. So how is it that connections are not being made among these awesome people?

I guess there would be a lot of pressure as the setter-upper to send two friends off to make a love connection. "Hey, I think you'd really hit it off with so-and-so." would be a lot to live up to on a first date. And if you were the one being set up, imagine the pressure of trying to make it work so you don't have to go back to your friend and report in that the date smelled like cheesesteaks and was about exciting as a Golden Girls episode*.

I think the only time I was set up was my one blind date, but it wasn't exactly a match made in heaven that my friend was excited about. And I can't even recall any times when I have thought of two friends and decided that they would be perfect for each other.

Hmm, it's interesting.


*That's right. I hate Golden Girls. Suck it!

14 comments:

Theo said...

Why should one expect anything to happen... Just introduce them at some gathering and see what happens.

If they'd really hit it off alone, then they'd hit it off a lot easier without the pressure of a date, in the calm, relaxed setting of... I dunno, insert an example here.

I'm still working on this plan. It's hard being both the matchmaker and half of the match itself...

*sigh* so overworked... I should really go on strike or demand a raise or something.

Tasha said...

I've never been set up with someone by a mutual friend before but I can imagine the pressure of the date.

It just sucks when the guy turns out to be a tool and you're just sitting there wondering "why the hell did our friend set us up?! is there something wrong with me??" And you just sit there and try to figure out why the hell your friend thought this would be a good match.

And you don't want to make the mutual friend feel bad for making such a mistake. Hey, at least they were thinking of you...

CarmenSinCity said...

If I knew a wonderful guy, I'd be with him - therefor I can't set anyone up. hehe

Single guy blogging said...

Sadly, nothing good has ever come from setting friends up. All I ever received was awkwardness in future contact with both parties. Too bad, but never doing it again. :)

LMNt said...

Yes, people still set people up. I actually have a relatively current story positive about that. Catch me on IM and I'll give it to you.

LMNt said...

Ack! I meant "relatively current, positive story about that."

Oops.

Give me the dunce cap and I'll go sit in the corner now.

Harleyblue said...

I've set people up by inviting them both out to something or for drinks and just letting them see how it goes. I get them together in a group setting and then it's up to them from there.

NotCarrie said...

Theo- Well, sometimes there are mutual friends who are in completely different circles. It could be hard to get them to the same gathering.

Tasha- Haha yeah, it could be tough to tell your friend the truth.

Carmensincity- hahhaa, I actually had a paraphraph about that at first, but erased it;)

Single Guy Blogging- Bust on that. I think I'd have to be really certain about a set up to initiate it.

lmnt- I know;)

Harleyblue- I think that's def the best way.

Karinaxoxo said...

Hmmm I've done it a few times but it kinda sucks when it doesn't work out - esp if your friend was keen on him.
I think it's a lil easier if they've met before so at least they both know each other a little.

jo said...

i have never matchmade any of my friends before. maybe 'coz they seem to be perfectly capable in finding their own matches. and besdies i couldn't think of a suitable people to match 'em up with. i like to think matchmaking involves a lil more thought process than 'you're single, he's single, therefore you guys should meet'. oh well i've never had any successful matches from friends either haha!

Marissa said...

i've been on LOTS of set ups by friends and NONE ever worked out. and then it just creates an awkward situation between friends afterwards!

NML said...

I stopped letting my friends set me up after going on a date with the most boring man on earth and the one of the dirrrtiest (as in crap that came out of his mouth). I figured I could meet guys like that off my own back without having to dignify myself to my friend as to why I didn't like them. That said, it wasn't a set up, but I was introduced to the boyf through a mutual friend but she didn't set us up. I won't set people up because I don't like the aggravation of it.

LMNt said...

NC -- There's more now.

Isabella Snow said...

OMG blind dates can really blow. And not in a good way.

As I've just told Samantha, if you'd like to see what I really do, pop over to my blog, as I'll likely take that youtube down in a few days. :)