Tuesday, May 02, 2006

Feelin' the spurs

Not sure you'll recall, but leading up to my 30th birthday I decided to make some bold moves. Unfortunately, months later I am now left questioning my judgement in such a strategic decision. NotCowboy was the 40-something heartthrob I lusted after for months. We had clicked early on through our work on a mutual work project. So...upon realizing I was about to enter what I officially considered real "adulthood", I called and left a message on his machine explaining I enjoyed his company and was interested in getting to know him better outside of a work environment. I was really interested in jumping his bones, but tact, at least, kept me from saying that. I never heard back from him and pretty much let it roll right off my back. After all, it was only lust and the work project we shared was wrapping up. So, why bring this up now? I found out a little over a week ago that there was a big media event for the project we had partnered with his company on. Normally, this is the kind of event we would have helped plan and would definitely have been there. However, did I even know about it? Did he call me or email to ensure I was in the loop? Hell, no. Is this something he would have normally done pre-friendly message? Hell, yes. It now appears that my decision to be forthcoming about my feelings will effect my position on a work project. Sigh. Sad to learn even older men still retain the immature gene.

6 comments:

NotCarrie said...

When you mentioned a NotCowboy problem I imagined the worst and thought you two would be working together closely and that he had asked to be reassigned or something.

I hope there's another explanation and he isn't just a big immature tool.

NotMiranda said...

It just sucks because my organization missed out on a great opportunity. It also makes it look like I'm not doing my job. (not that anyone has said anything to me)

NotCharlotte said...

That bastard!!

Devil's advocate= are you suuuure that's the reason?

Spyder said...

Not all of us, and there could be plenty of reasons why he didnt email/call ya.

TheBarmaid said...

Men are immature because they are. I thought a 34-year-old would have his shit together. Notsomuch....

Anonymous said...

No offense and it is a bit sad, but he may have changed behavior because even though you were the one to mention social interaction outside of work, he could get sued and lose his job. I'm not saying _you_ would do such a thing, but it is something even mature guys have to be aware of. While it would be more polite for him to say "sorry, can't get interested in a coworker", even that can backfire in a person scorned sort of situation.