Monday, March 06, 2006

Making a graceful exit

I feel like I need to close the loop on the NotGraceful debacle. As if he were reading this blog, the email standoff ended at 4:26 pm on February 26, when I finally received a response to my "let's put all cards on the table" email. He said much more than I expected or even wanted. The gist of the email was that he wasn't interested. I got to hear how he was a laidback guy who felt put on a stage and that I somehow expected so much of him. Can I make one fucking thing clear here? I may air my neuroses on this site, but I do NOT display them for public consumption. The most he ever got from me was a tendency to ignore him. Maybe my neuroses cling to me like the stench of sour milk, but I don't think so. I also consider myself pretty self aware and got several signs that he might be interested in something more than friendship. Screw it. I can move on and do the whole friendship thing with him. In fact, that's what we've been doing since then. After a bit of initial ackwardness the first time we saw each other, he joked about the email, and I laughed and called him an asshole. Friendship can begin at asshole. It's what I do...I keep rollin'. The friend I am doesn't think about how hot it is that he played guitar and sang his own material in the wee hours of the morning at NotSamantha's party on Friday. The friend I am convinces herself that it's normal for him (a friend) to grab my (also just a friend) hand and hold it just a little bit. I just keep rollin'.

13 comments:

Larissa said...

be careful with the 'just a friend' mentality. when a guy i crushed on didn't return the feelings, i thought we could be friends. but it wasn't like i could turn my feelings off with a switch ya know? so at times i felt myself resenting him.

NotCarrie said...

Larissa speaks the truth.

NotMiranda said...

Trust me...I know exactly what you mean. I won't deny that the crush I was beating down earlier in the week intensified after spending time with him on Friday.

CoatMan said...

He's one confused bunny. Best wishes in finding a proper NotBoyfriend :-)

NotCarrie said...

Maybe he DID hear that question when we were in Lucky Bar;)

Dolly said...

I'm with Larissa and NotCarrie. You might want to give it a little time before you give the friendship a go. You might find yourself taking your anger and frustration out on him without realizing it.

Laurie (aka buggy) said...

"Oh baby you. You got what I neee-eed. And you say he's just a friend. Yeah you say he's just a friend - OH BABY YOUUUUUU-OOUUUU!"

That song sprung to mind so I shared.

That's fine. You just get an even hotter guy and dangle him around in front of NotGraceful next time. And when you introduce the new beau to NotGraceful, you say, "New Beau, this is my FRIENNNNNNNNNNNND NotGraceful."

NotCharlotte said...

I agree with Laurie, that's a good idea (New NotBoyfriend to shove in his face)
Although vindictive, it would get the point across.

NotCarrie, what question?

jo said...

he sounds confused. and this whole just a friend thing? i'm not sure if i believe that a guy and girl can truly be just platonic friends. especially if one has liked the other before. it's just not that simple i guess. be careful there... you could get reeled back in again... damn those men...

NotCarrie said...

Remember at Lucky Bar, NotC, when we had to run upstairs?

writersbloc gal said...

you know, i used to joke a few years back that i should start a blog called "no sex & the city" because my dating stories were so wacky... i never followed through with it, but i'm glad you did. exellent blog! :)

NotCarrie said...

Thanks, writersbloc...great minds think alike, eh? hehe

NotMiranda said...

Thanks, boos.