Thursday, March 02, 2006

Breaking The E-Ice!

So a few days ago a friend asked me to check out her online dating profile to see how it looked. Well, those online dating sites are pretty smart because in order to view her profile, I have to join. And after putting stats like my email and name in I figured, "What the hell?" and added a hott picture and completed my page.

So, all of a sudden I am in the online dating world.


And what happens? A GUY I USED TO BE FRIENDS WITH FOUND ME! Great, just great. So then I feel the need to write to him to break the e-ice because even though HE is the one who found ME, I'm worried he's going to think I'm a loser for being on there. (Not that online dating is bad...it's not, I just don't think it's for me.)

However, as a silver lining to having my profile out there: Tons of hott guys have been checking out my profile! I'm not going to lie, it is totally rocking my self confidence. I was worried when my first "wink" was also my friend's first "wink" but his creepy profile is long lost now in my list of men who have "viewed me." I'm going to wait to see what my ex-friend says back but I'm not sure how long I can stay on that site.



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17 comments:

Larissa said...

why would he think you're a loser? he's on the site too! which one did you use by the way? i'm pondering it...

NotCarrie said...

Just because of how our friendship was before. This is really lame but one-time he said, "How could YOUR purity test* score be lower than MINE!" He thought he was hot stuff.


The Onion;) I've got to say, there ARE some hotties on there! Reow!


*This was like, 6 years ago!

NotCharlotte said...

Yay for the Onion!
I have good ideas sometimes :-P

Single guy blogging said...

Damn - I didn't even know the onion has a dating component to it! Going to check it out right now... :)

NotCarrie said...

Note: I do not use the same picture as my user pic;) Don't waste your time looking for my hottness that way...haha, kidding.

Elle said...

Ha! I hear ya on the wierdos...I swear they have a setting where only sketch-balls can sign up to be alerted when a new girl signs joins the site...the result is a slew of winks and emails from standard stalker types...

As you may know, I'm sooo not a proponent of the online thing but it's still worth a try...just be VERY selective :-)

NotCarrie said...

Oh no problemo on being selective. I've met one person from the internet and he was a nutjob. I'm only meeting people after they submit govt clearance and DNA samples.

TheBarmaid said...

The [Bad] Date was my -- to date -- one and only e-indulgence. Needless to say, it was also my last.

I love the notthatthere'sanythingwrongwiththat component to online dating. But I'd feel embarrassed if someone I knew caught me on there, too. Notthatthere'sanythingwrongwiththat :)

NotMiranda said...

Ah...online dating. NotCharlotte, you should check your memory for who exactly recommended you check out the Onion (cough).

As for being embarrassed for being discovered online, I have to say I agree with NotCarrie and the girls. When NotCarrie mentioned an old friend found her, I had horrific visions of someone from high school seeing me on there. Ugh.

Amanda said...

good luck...you never know, right?

i understand your inner conflict with dating sites. i have never had success on them simply because my heart hasn't been in it. in the back of my mind, i don't want to meet someone that way. it's self-defeating, maybe one day i will get over it.

NotCarrie said...

I think my hesitation with it is because I don't want someone I know, or used to know, to see me on there and think I'm a pathetic loser. We all know that not everyone on the dating sites are pathetic losers (None of us are, right?) But the guy who winked within 10 seconds of me joining? patheticness is hardly questionable. So I just wish I could have a note on there: "I'm just on here trying things out. Don't jump to conclusions that I suck at life!"

Maybe I'm worried about karma from laughing when I found old friends on dating sites;)

annie said...

My sister and one of my best friends both met their husbands through online dating sites. They're really great guys. When I was on one of those sites, though, I met some certifiable crazies. Oh well.

NotCarrie said...

Aw, Love a success story!!

jo said...

oh i know what you mean. and that's why my 'real life' friends don't know bout my profile in online dating sites. not that i actually make use of 'em. seems like just a fun random thing i did at that time.

snob in the city said...

You have confirmed my biggest fear about joining an online dating site. Youch!

Having a friend find you, and respond is better than that deep dark fear, that an old friend (or arch enemy) is reading your profile and making fun of you...

Mindi said...

At least a few of them are hot?

Now, just waiting for the DNA test results....

:)

NotCarrie said...

Snob and Mindi-now you have me scared!

There are some hott guys but really, I'm not sure if I would meet anyone from the site. And my profile is soooo not "Hey, date me"...it's more like, "Haha, I'm on a dating site!"