Sunday, March 26, 2006

Back seat rules for the front seat...

I think I've become a geeky guy magnet, either that, or someone has pasted my picture in the personals section of PC Magazine (as if such a thing exists). I also seem to attract men who have roaming hands that move faster than the latest gaming pc chip. Tonight was my first date with NotAlbert one of the few guys who I struck up an actualy conversation with via email after he responded to my twoliner that I placed on an online personals page.

The ad has my picture and with most of my responses I had hoped to also get a picture in kind, which he did provide. After we had talked via phone and he passed the "I don't sound like a girl on the phone and I can have an intelligent conversation" test, we agreed on a simple movie and dinner date. Since he lived in DC he suggested a nearby theatre and I met him outside of the restaurant we would be eating at after the movie. When he pulled up, I'll admit it was a shock. He was definately larger than I anticipated, and shorter than I thought he would be, especially since I wore 3 inch heels to measure his height by. Me, superficial, you bet; him unwilling subject to my physical demands for a partner, you got it in one.

He didn't measure up to what I was looking for as far as body type for a guy at all. Although neither did NotSkippy. And while I chastised myself for two seconds about judging him based on his looks, I decided to continue to go along with it because he may surprise me.

Surprisingly, he didn't.

He was polite, attentive, and paid for everything, he was funny and surprised by my ability to hold my own dealing with conversations about sex, porn and computer sites (this is the only thing that knowing NotSkippy helped with). He was a NICE GUY (and every male that reads this blog just ran screaming into the darkness) But he just didn't do it for me. He touched my hand and I felt nothing, he didn't give me one of the LOOKs, or if he did, he didn't do it when I was paying attention so I missed it totally.

Now berate me all you want for holding him accountable for some ideal of the perfect man, but its my ideal and I'll keep if I want to. So where does this leave him. I know where he is mentally right now. He's probably happy that the date went okay and he got the go ahead for date two (this time I'm cooking since he seemed to be keen on the fact that I like to cook, which is true), and he's now probably trying to figure out exactly how to get me out of some of my clothing the next time we get together, since in the car after we had arrived back at the train station (he insisted that because of the late hour he didn't feel right about me taking the train back to my car, so he drove me to it), he tried to get me out of my sweater and my shirt and hopefully my bra. All under the careful guise of a massage...

Will someone please explain to me the deal with geeky guys offering the massage deal on the first date. Is this some sort of parlor trick that they all are given upon certifaction in whatever computing language they choose? It was very funny watching the play of emotions across his face when I asked him point blank if he was trying to get me out of my clothing. And then remind him that this is the first date and he's only eligible for knowing where my tattoo is and seeing it.

But, I digress.

In the spirit of it being the first date, and the high probability of me putting him in the "F" file under Friend or Failure (haven't decided which moniker to use for him yet), I decided to go along with this. And was surprised that even in this he had no appeal to me.

I'll put a tick mark in my check box for geeky and trying, but he needs to get a little bit more of something before he'll see anymore of me other than in the platonic sense.

12 comments:

Vixen said...

Geeky guys don't do it for me either. I love my men intelligent but not geeky...hard to find, I know.

Sounds like your date was pretty decent even if there were no sparks. Oh well, better luck next time NotSamantha!

CoatMan said...

"The look"? What's the look?

one girl said...

Wow, you gave him the go ahead for date two after no spark and no physical attraction? I think that I may be pickier than I thought.

Good for you for giving him a second chance.

Laurie (aka buggy) said...

If it aint there, it aint there. ya can't force yerself.

In my opinion, you know in the first 5 minutes of meeting someone if you feel attraction. But that's just been my experience.

NotSamantha said...

OG - yeah I gave him date two since he brought it up. I'll see what happens then, but I know that this is as far as we'll get. He was nice and all, but I need a little bit mor substance from the guy I'm dating and he just didn't have it.

NotCarrie said...

Are you worried he thinks he's gonna get some since he's coming to your house for Date #2?

jo said...

how bout a massage over your clothes? that way everyone wins haha!

Larissa said...

huh. if i wasn't feeling it, i wouldn't have let him give me a massage. curious to hear how date number two goes!

NotMiranda said...

I have to agree with NotCarrie in that I'm curious the impression he got of the date. Had he tried to give me a massage at first meeting, I would have punched him.

NotSamantha said...

I guess this is me giving him a second chance, although I know where this is going and its probably going to be the last, but I feel sort of bad about the fact that he paid for dinner AND the movie. So in return I fix dinner and we'll look at anime.

NotCharlotte said...

hahaha so it's an "obligated" second date?

Silly NotSamantha...

Dolly said...

I think it's cool that you are openminded enough to see him again. Why should anybody criticize you for not feeling the chemistry? Sometimes it's just not there, regardless of how wonderful the guy is.