Sunday, February 26, 2006

The house of yes

Earlier this week I sent NotGraceful an email laying bare my feelings. I'm tired of all of the shy staring, and it was my hope that this would allow me to be more of myself around him, this boy who stuns me into silence. The email itself was low key. I admited I harbored a crush (duh) and that I got that he may not feel the same. I let him know that I just needed to know that he knew so I could act more normal. I've reached a stumbling block in my quest for normalcy, however. It has been close to a week, and he has yet to acknowledge the email. We've seen each other several times since it was sent, and he has continued to stare and hover. On at least a couple of those occasions he has acted like he has something he needs to say. You know how you can just feel when someone wants to talk to you? By Friday I couldn't take it anymore. I mean, is it too much to expect him to acknowledge receipt of the email? I just want an, "I got your email. Cool," kind of response. Friday we were all at a pool hall for someone's birthday. As NotCharlotte and I were leaving, I leaned over as I was passing NotGraceful and asked when I could expect an acknowledgement of the email I had sent. He gaped...I gave a snide look. I walked out. Still no response.

11 comments:

CoatMan said...

One always cringes a little when a person directly states to another that he or she has romantic feelings for that other.

If NotGraceful was the uncomfortable sort who could not handle the thought that you might like him when it was only subtly implied, just imagine what your e-mail would have done to the insides of the poor man's mind!

NotCarrie said...

Yeah but the fact that it was via email was perfect for someone who may be a little shy and wouldn't be able to handle face-to-face "I like you". All he had to do was write back (no matter his response) or even started the "acting normal" trend.

CoatMan said...

Yes, not writing back at all (rather than, say, writing back and deflecting the issue) is a tad, well, rude...

Dolly said...

Ugh, this guy is such a wuss! You put yourself out there and it would have been nice for him to say *something* in response, even an "I'm flattered" (because he should be!). I hope at the very least he's out of your system or on his way out. No use pining after someone that isn't going to reciprocate, right? And if he is interested, shouldn't he have acted on it by now?

Larissa said...

yeah i agree he should have emailed back. how hard is it to type? i wouldn't put yourself out there again for him. the ball's in his court.

jo said...

notgraceful must be a real shy boy... or a total wuss. but that said, props to you for laying your feelings out there. i know i couldn't do it.

NotMiranda said...

I finally got that response yesterday afternoon. I'll post more about it later, but let's just say we were evidently both reading eachother wrong.

Coatman - I might not have made so bold a move had I not gotten signs he might be interested.

Dolly - Trust me, the pining is definitely over.

Larissa & Jo - He is really shy but finally found some cajones and stepped up.

NotCarrie said...

I'm shy, too, but I also return emails:)

Laurie (aka buggy) said...

eh. meh. ged.

First of all I must commend you on your honesty and fearlessness (although I'm sure there must be SOME butterflies in this act) of sending him an email letting him know your feelings. He is very lucky to have someone lay it out there like that instead of playing games.

Second how awkward it must have been the rest of the week with you wondering and getting no response yet and having to see him after you sent it!? One would THINK he would have emailed BACK - I mean you literally set it up for him to make it so EASY for him to let you know his feelings and avoid awkwardness by using computerized communication of the matter. GUYS ARE SO CLUELESS.

And THEN, finally, when you inquire about it (I mean he gives you no other choice, and, by the way I commend you for hanging in there without bursting for as long as you did) - he still gives you NOTHIN?

Is there no justice in this world? No I already know! THERE ISN'T!!

trueborn said...

Wow.
Sounds like a dud to me.
You'd think he had the stones to say something. So very sad when I hear of yet another man dropping the ball in the dating game.

There needs to be some sort of review seesion. So that the ones that know can straighten out those that don't.

I wonder how I could organize such a thing?

NotCarrie said...

I like your game analogy, Trueborn.