Thursday, January 12, 2006

Think About Sex

So they say that guys think about sex every few moments or something, right? But are there exceptions to this rule? Are there guys out there who are immune to the sex thoughts? And is the amount of sexual thinking correlated to the amount of sexual actions going on? Is it possible for a guy to "turn off" those thoughts?

A friend of mine from college always seemed like the the sort of, asexual type. He was definitely into girls and eventually definitely came out of his shell but for awhile it seemed like he was that atypical guy who just wasn't into girls. But all that time when I thought he wasn't interested, was he just keeping those thoughts about sex in the back of his mind?

I am currently asking a friend of mine, via IM, some of these questions. He said that he definitely thinks about sex a lot because there is so much in the world to remind him of it. But he doesn't think that all guys do. Then I asked him if ALL guys masturbate because I was under the impression (from Dr. Drew) that they sort of have to. He said, again, that he doesn't think so and laughed at me for citing Dr. Drew. Now he is trying to compare men and women but that's a whole other blog...


Any thoughts? And not about Loveline, thanks.

12 comments:

Just Me said...

I think the 'thinking about sex every six seconds' thing is a cliche, and depends very much on the individual, male or female.
Your friend who said there's a lot to remind men of sex is right - but I think all the information has a deadening effect. Sex overload in the media means yes, we all think about it a lot, but because sexual images are so banal to us, we quickly pass on to something else in our brains.

xx

I-66 said...

I think about it often but I wouldn't say I think about it constantly. I think it'd be impossible to be immune - even if you're getting it all the time. There's always something to remind you.

Horny Old Guy said...

Even at age 65 I think about sex frequently (at least a dozen times a day) and masturbate regularly (two or three times a week). When I was younger I thought about it much more and masturbated much more. When I was a horny teenager...don't ask! I am probably about average.

NotCarrie said...

Thanks for the comments...I need a "What Men Want" day (like the movie) to know what you're all thinking;)

Nicole said...

I own the movie, but I doubt the gentlemen have had the pleasure of watching it.

I too have heard that all guys must either masturbate or have wet dreams, something about an accumulation of fluids, but then again I have also learned in med school classes something to the effect of fluid reabsorption/recycling so guys don't carry around 3 lb. testicles, and why blue balls is not a real medical condition.

I-66 said...

I don't argue over whether blue balls is a real medical condition... though every guy has to know what it is

NotCarrie said...

Yeah...I'm not a guy (duh) so I don't know but a lot have told me (for some reason or another) that if they don't get some kind of action it can be uncomfortable. So then I of course wonder about the guy's who aren't outwardly sexual and if they do their homework (masturbate). Does that make sense?

I-66 said...

Oh, see... Blue balls, in laymans terms, doesn't come from not getting action. It comes from getting some action and then not climaxing.

NotCarrie said...

Maybe I'm not meshing everything I've heard and getting confused;) Right now I'm thinking about NotBigFeet who used to tell my friend he was, "backed up" and needed some lovin'. hahaha, gross.

annie said...

I'm with "just me" on this one.

There must be a lot of individual variation. I've known men who seem to keep sexual thoughts compartmentalized from other types of thoughts. And, I've known women whose sexual thoughts color almost everything else in their thinking.

If you could pick the ultimate ratio of sexual thoughts to all other thoughts, what would that ratio be?

Dolly said...

While I think most men think about sex with greater frequency than women (though I'm sure there are exceptions), sexual appetite can vary greatly. I had one boyfriend that said ideally he would only have sex about once a week and that all his partners wanted it more than he did. I also had a boyfriend that would have been happier doing it several times a day. It depends on the person's mental health, too. Depression or stress can cause a person to become assexual for a time. Anyway, that's my $0.02.

Great blog, hope you don't mind if I link it!

Nicole said...

No no no. As instructed by my Gtown professor, which ok, yes it's a Jesuit school but whatever, arousal minus the climax does not result in "blue balls", the discomfort, or otherwise. At least there is no medical rationale for it. It's just psychosomatic or something, you're frustrated and trying to convince your girl to just finish you off your heaven's sake. Again this is just what I've been told, I don't have any testicles, thus have never had to experience this myself...