I am a firm believer in having no expectations. I think that if you go through life not expecting anything then you will rarely be disappointed. This theory has actually worked out very well for me since it I adopted it awhile ago. I have my moments of weakness though when I wish with all my being for something special to happen and so, if it doesn't, I find myself getting down. These are the times when I get a little crazy and decide I am over someone. It's a silly thing though because if true feelings are involved then how can they dissipate so quickly? What gets me out of a funk like that is focusing on the good.
It sounds simple because it is.
Instead of worrying and feeling crappy because a certain someone didn't call, welcome feelings of elation when he/she does.
So your night together ended early-why stress over that when you can think back to the good times you did have?
If you don't expect it...you can't be disappointed.
4 comments:
I think it's boring if you don't expect things. Then you'll never learn to strive for your goals. I think it's a cop-out.
Granted, I hate waiting for something to happen that inevitably does not, but at least I tried.
Goals and expectations are different. I'm talking about having an approach towards things so you don't come out of a situation disappointed. If I want something I am going to go after it. But I am going to go after it with the mindset of focusing on the positive things. This way I don't end up being a blithering idiot who gets upset about the smallest things.
I think expectations rely on other people while goals are something that comes from me. If I don't reach my goals then I only have myself to blame and of course disappointment would come from that.
I agree with you for the most part, but I do have to say that there is something to throwing yourself in 200% and letting the chips fall where they may. Expectation is a little exciting, and I don't think I'm strong enough to give it up. Of course, I have the ability to be expectant and pessimistic at the same time : )
It's like if I go on a date and hope he kisses me then I am going to be disappointed when he doesn't. But if I go on that date and decide I am going to kiss him then my disappoinment is my own fault if the kiss doens't happen. Otherwise, if he kisses me? It's a damn good surprise:)
It's more just a way to view situations. Of course I have hopes about things and most definitely don't always take control of a situation but if I go around with high expectations and do nothing about them then I a bound to face disappointments.
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