Saturday, July 12, 2008

A Lemming? Who me?

Once again, I've decided to try out online dating services (is it really a service if you don't work with someone?), in order to get a date. Given that I've signed up for OKCupid, Match.com (again) and AdultFriendFinder (again) and haven't heard a peep is sort of discouraging.

OKCupid is the latest and greatest and while I've gotten little to no response to my profile I have been stalked a few times (which is equal parts encouraging and disturbing), I've yet to have someone actually send me a note (or comment, or whatever the hell you get). I'm not going to question my profile, survey or pictures that I have posted, but I'm starting to wonder about my age group and dating. What I mean is:

Have we gotten lazy about the prospect of finding a date?

For example, I've heard of people finding "the One" when they've finally decided to stop looking. Could that be what's happened? Did I miss the boat on the whole movement to officially 'not look' for my person? Not to say that I've been hitting the dating pool every chance I get, but should I even try? In the most lemming of thoughts, because no one else is doing it sounds like a good out right now.

11 comments:

Capitol Hill 20210 said...

okcupid creeped me out, I pulled my picture down......I kept getting men that were completely not my type and way out of my age range. Match - ugh that one I give up on because its the same men on there from last year. Thus far I like Eharmony.......not bad so far.....

Kudos to you braving adultfriendfinder though - careful though tons of married ones on there.

NotMiranda said...

I signed up for Rock and Roll Dating because I got an email soliciting us. After I signed up and browsed around, I promptly forgot about it. So few people are on there. Anyway, I've gotten a few emails, but they are always from people who are SO not my type. I mean I don't have a type per se, but I'm not exactly the kind of girl to be wooed by a "wiccan guy into goth rock who has only been through high school" or a "22 year old fire fighter who can't spell and just wants to hook up."

I'm kind of in "stop looking" mode.

Roxy said...

I've had a lot of success with dating regardless of the site. The important thing is to keep an open mind. Just because someone doesn't have an attractive picture or look good on paper doesn't mean they're not good for you.

I met my current beau on craigslist. He's fat, so I avoided meeting up with him. Finally I gave in and went out on a date. We've been together 2 years now.

Clever Elsie said...

Well, according to this oft-quoted survey, only 16% of American singles describe themselves as actively looking for a romantic partner, so you may be on to something.

jo said...

i've tried online dating and then i've decided to stop trying and then i've since gone back and forth... and i still haven't found "the one".

Date Girl said...

I found a great guy on Match, but it's funny, I gave up on the site and was just about to delete my account when he messaged me. I thought he was a goob because his profile picture was him with his shirt off. Then when I read his profile he was hilarious and just my type. So I guess in a way I wasn't looking because I had just given up. Funny how that is.

Isabella Snow said...

I met two fabulous guys on Match.com. They were both the best and worst men I've ever dated. ;) Good luck with the others -- stay away from Alt.com, I've yet to meet a normal person there. But then, that might be the point. ;)

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Anonymous said...

So????? What's happened??

dawn said...

Don't feel bad, I've tried online dating many times and I've had absolutely NO luck. I've only met two people total that I clicked with in person and one turned out to have a gf and the other one apparently didn't feel the same about me coz I never heard from him again.

I have met some people that I ended up being friends with from online dating though, so I guess that's a plus. I have so many horror stories from it though. I pretty much have low expectations when it comes to meeting people online anymore!

Lindsey said...

One of my guy friends has been trying online dating and you should see the women that approach him. He sends me pictures from time to time...it's INSANE. How you're ever supposed to weed through all the bad to find the good, I'll never know.

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