Tuesday, May 23, 2006

Space Sharing

I have had my share of roommates:

The one in college who had sex with her boyfriend while I was in the room because she thought I was asleep. (Like that should make it okay.) The other one I got stuck with who would eat KFC and cake all the time and spill it on my things then act like *I* was messy because my trash was full. The one who turned out to be the most pessimistic person I've ever known and I started having to sneak out of my apartment to go hang out with "mutual" friends who were starting to not like my roommate. Sure, it could have been worse but I wouldn't exactly call those three ideal.

So once I get career things settled and taken care of, I will be looking at new places to live and I have already decided that I do NOT want a roommate. I don't want another roommate until I'm married. Well, or living with the person I think I will marry. It's interesting to think about though-living with my boyfriend/fiance/husband. I've never lived with a significant other (thank GOODNESS) and am equally excited and nervous for when the time comes. (Which won't be for awhile, I don't think.)

It's just interesting to think about. I hope I don't turn into one of those ladies who has a husband who hasn't seen her without makeup on for 30 years or something. And I hope we don't have to have separate rooms because he snores. Also, it would be nice if he REALLY loves to wash dishes and fold clothes-my two least favorite things to do.

10 comments:

Sweet said...

Yeah I hear you on the roomie situation. Right now I live with four girls, and sometimes it can be a bit of estrogen overload!

SomeGuyInDC said...

I feel your pain, believe me. Being a neat and tidy person that loves to cook, I’ve suffered through many years of frat-boy like roommates who create randomly placed garbage and eat my food.

But I would caution you against living alone for any extended period of time. Part of my job entails studying marriage, divorce, and relationships. And all of the studies I’ve read and my personal experiences confirm (I used to live in group houses, then I lived alone for a while, and now I live with one semi-considerate roommate in an apartment) that once you live alone it’s very hard to give it up. Living alone gives you a high level of control over your personal space and privacy. But doing so usually leads to far more stress, hardship, and arguments when you give it up then you might avoid in the short term by living alone. So if you ever plan on moving in with a significant other and/or having a family, keeping a roommate or two is a good way to learn tolerance, practice conflict resolution skills, and manage money and the home communally.

It sucks, and it boils down to “Don’t buy the red convertible you want because it has no resale value, raises your insurance premiums, and has a higher chance of accidents.”

But it’s true.

NotSamantha said...

I've got a roommate and I like having one, but sometimes I just want the house to be empty. SO, I lieu of this, the next space I get will definately be a room of my own and I'll be getting a cat...maybe. Because that's roommate enough for me.

Lindsey said...

It's so funny b/c I was just thinking about this the other day. Since I grew up in a house of 5 kids...I never had privacy so the minute I moved out...I've lived on my own...even if it meant working 2 jobs to do it. I'm with you. I absolutely do NOT want a roommate unless it is a very serious boyfriend.

pookalu said...

this whole roommate thing has been soooo on my mind (all the time, recently). i live with friends i've known for almost 20 years, and i love them like sisters. but it's come to that time where we're going our separate ways, and it makes me sad.

but hands down, i CANNOT and will not live with people i don't want to live with - like everyone else, i have four older sisters, i went to boarding school, and then there was college and post college. after all of that, i can only live with my future husband or my "sisters."

NotCarrie said...

Yeah, I could totally live with my sister. We would be good roommates AND she likes to do housework and cook so it would work out.

I can think of 1 or 2 friends I could live with but I've put in my roommate time;)

Ashburnite said...

I live with 2 other girls- I really wish I could afford to live alone, but right now it's not possible. But if you can afford to do it- definitely do!

carrie said...

My first college roommate did the exact same thing (having sex in the room thinking I was asleep)!! I had completely forgotten about that (I think because my brain cells are lost due to kiddos - see, one more reason to not want kids. I love mine, but to each their own!) I may have to write about it someday . . .

I was happiest living in a tiny studio apartment during my last three quarters of college - ALONE!! After going through all those roomies, it was bliss! Good luck to you, love the blog.

Jordan said...

I love living alone. I have no idea what it's like, but when the kids are gone I secretely wish they send me a letter telling me they joined the military. Certainly, I kid... but I do like my alone time. You're young, so I don't suggest you get a roommate simply so you an 'get used to having someone around' to build tolerance... you have plenty of time for that. Now if you're still living alone in your 40s.. I'd agree that it may be rather difficult to co-habitate with someone.

Betty on the Beach said...

Roommates suck. I so wish I could get a place I could afford on my own that isn't the size of a shoe box. I'm sick of picking up after my current roommate...cereal on the kitchen floor, Nestle Quick sprinkled all over the kitchen counter, leaving chocolate milk in a mug in the sink all weekend while we're both away so the kitchen smells like sour milk when I returned, locking my cat in rooms because she's totally oblivious...I could go on, but I won't because I'm getting upset. Someday I too will have a space of my own. Oh, to dream.